Why Do We Treat Our Women That Way?

In a four-part video series, Senior Editor Haroon Moghul, examines the horrors of domestic violence and how they are so often marginalized in Muslim culture.



Part I: The Point Isn’t If She Got Beat Up, The Point Is Women Get Beat Up

A few days ago, I posted a link on my Facebook wall to a dramatization of a woman’s abuse. One response, and one response in particular, really angered me. What is it with Muslims and domestic violence, and why do we find it so hard, in the face of evil and wrong, to just accept that wrong was done, and stop splitting hairs?

Part II: ‘I was 19 and I was raped’

God this hurt to watch. So bad I couldn’t. Until I realized I had to. This happens; this happens more than we’d like to know or admit. And what do we propose we’ll do about it? First off, I was like, “how can I share this?”–until I realized, “how could I not?” The original video I’m referencing can be found here.

Part III: What Would the Prophet Muhammad Post?

Sometimes you can’t stop pain. You can’t save people from hurt. There’s wrongs happening all around us. But we can choose how we respond to people who’ve been hurt, harmed, or oppressed. There’s one moment in Muhammad’s life that captures everything he stood for: Radical, unbelievable compassion. “He is of me,” he said, “and I am of him.”

People often ask me, “What kind of things do we need to do to make sure Islam survives?” I figure I should answer. And the answer is: Intolerance. I’m sick of making excuses for terrible institutions, misguided leadership, and outright dangerous discourse. At the heart of Islam is the sacredness of the individual, created by God; anything other than that must be challenged, reformed, or abandoned.


Featured image courtesy of Kakhun Wart/Flickr.

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    • Sabina Gatti

      “When we stop abusing men we will still have wars , when we stop abusing women we will still have wars but when we stop abusing our children there will be no more War.” – Alice Miller

    • Sabina Gatti

      I created this group in English and another 3 languages (Polish, Italian, Swedish) to illuminate adults of these societies, because we already know all about men. We know that they are violent with women and with children but we know nothing about women regarding violence.

      Woman in our societies are seen only as “victim” to be protect, support and recieve compassion. Therefore the purpose of this group is not to continue the battle of the sexes, men and women!

      The purpose of this group is not to criticize women!

      The purpose of this group is to spread the truth about us women and mothers to raise awareness of our societies, that the women are violent as much as men are!

      The truth about women continues to be hidden and I do not understand why?

      No one believes children and their fathers that women and mothers can be so violent with them.

      We are convinced that children learn violence from men but men are not born with the violence encoded in some of their gene.

      In the past and even today women are more involved in taking care of children and children pass a lot of time with women and not with men.

      This calculation cannot be replaced with another one and it demonstrates that it is not the man to teach children violence but it’s women?

      – 9 months in the womb
      – the first months and years of life children spend with mother who, if needs to be supported, receives help from other women: her own mother, mother-in-law, sister, sister – in – low, cousin, friend or nanny.
      – then if women must return to work outside the home, the same women take care of her children
      – then we give children to nursery and kindergarten
      – then children go to elementary school and middle school.

      How many men work in such kind of institutions?